Sexuality – Do whatever the fuck you want. Own it
Had an interesting, post drunken-bender, conversation with my housemate last night. We were discussing religion. I found that I had started to wonder if there was a God deciding if I should go to hell after walking out of a seedy nightclub at 10am that same morning and taking home a random bloke with whom I had sex with for a couple of hours before he promptly got up, got dressed and returned to the casino to continue the debauchery with his mates. Sounds classy right?
Once upon a time, the participation in such an activity would have provoked judgement, self-loathing, guilt and so much shame. But this time was different. Reflection leaves a smile on my face and a pep in my step. It has nothing to do with the guy, or whether he will call me again, or what he said to his friends, or if I would tell mine. The usual anxiety induced process was absent.
Why? Because I fucking owned it!! I was fully present in the moment! I wasn’t doing it to try and find love or acceptance from another. I wasn’t doing it because I hoped he would realise mid orgasm that I was the love of his fucking life. I did it because I wanted to have sex. I am a young, vibrant, flawed but amazing human who is allowed to have sex with whoever I want to, whenever I want to and it does not make me a bad person or change the awesomeness than runs through my core. It was semi respectable, consensual and really fucking good.
So I told my friends.
Me: Guess what? (with a clear smirk in my voice)
Her: Oh god, what?
Me: I smashed the back out of random this morning that I found in a nightclub
Her: You are disgusting, that is so fucking unhygienic
Me: *laughs* I know, how good is it.
Her: Was it good?
Me: it was great
Her: Good on ya Darlz. Im glad you had fun! Want to do dinner tomorrow night?
And that was it. As long as its what you really want to do and its not driven by the wants or needs of anyone else. The people you choose to have in your life should love you and support your decisions regardless. If they don’t? Fuck ‘em
The Lesson? Do whatever the fuck you want. Own it.
-The Spiritual Bogan
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What an empowering and genuinely beautiful human you are! Keep smashing life (and boys) xx
My first comment xox Right back at you!! Thank you for being you!! Big love
OMG, good on you, so great to read about a woman who is not afraid to own herself….. I know it took me years and I might add a lot of counselling, but I have got to the space where I can sit and own me, keep up the great writings, you are an inspiration… <3
I think every girl can relate to the shame and guilt that comes post casual hook ups and its exiting to know that there is another way, that we can take the power back! Thanks for sharing, you’re amazing!
You are so right! Thanks Karly you are the best xo
Owning your passion and awesomeness is a fabulous thing. You go woman!
Oh and you are a great blogger too.
You are so kind! Thank you for your beautiful words xo
Thank you Ness!! We should all strive to own our passion, you are so right xo